Apr 22, 2011

Hope for the failures

John 21:14-19

There are people who've become paralyzed by failure. For those of us who struggle with this, there is hope.

In this passage, this hope is shown. Peter is one of the closest disciples of Jesus. He is the inner circle. And Peter fails. But look at how Jesus treats Peter...

Jesus calls us to face our failure

Jesus reminds Peter of his failure. Not just once, but three times. In front of a fire, just like where Peter failed Jesus. He makes Peter face it and own it. Peter answers humbly and tentatively. Jesus wanted to teach Peter something. Jesus asked the question in order to teach Peter something. Failure comes because we don't love Jesus. It comes because we depend on our own strength. We need to love and trust Him.

We come to Jesus because He died for our failures.

Jesus knew that Peter was going to fail. Jesus predicted as much. He knew what was going to happen. But Jesus paid for those failures. That is why we are drawn to Christ. His death paid for it all.

Jesus redeems and restores our failures

Grace is not the way the world works. Ex-cons don't really get a second chance. But look at how Jesus treats Peter after his failure. Peter is called again to shepherd and pastor the church. After the monumental failure. God restores him back to a fisher of men. The failure does not break Peter, but rather it makes him more useful for God. God takes us through failures and can make us more useful for God's purposes.

Our response

The proper response to a God who loves, forgives, restores, redeems, and loves...is to lay down our lives and submit to Him. Those who are forgiven much... Love much.
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Apr 17, 2011

The Gospel: Hope for the Crushed

[John 11:1-44]

Now a certain man was ill, Lazarus of Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha. It was Mary who anointed the Lord with ointment and wiped his feet with her hair, whose brother Lazarus was ill. So the sisters sent to him, saying, "Lord, he whom you love is ill." But when Jesus heard it he said, "This illness does not lead to death. It is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it."

Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So, when he heard that Lazarus was ill, he stayed two days longer in the place where he was. Then after this he said to the disciples, "Let us go to Judea again." The disciples said to him, "Rabbi, the Jews were just now seeking to stone you, and are you going there again?" Jesus answered, "Are there not twelve hours in the day? If anyone walks in the day, he does not stumble, because he sees the light of this world. But if anyone walks in the night, he stumbles, because the light is not in him." After saying these things, he said to them, "Our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep, but I go to awaken him." The disciples said to him, "Lord, if he has fallen asleep, he will recover." Now Jesus had spoken of his death, but they thought that he meant taking rest in sleep. Then Jesus told them plainly, "Lazarus has died, and for your sake I am glad that I was not there, so that you may believe. But let us go to him." So Thomas, called the Twin, said to his fellow disciples, "Let us also go, that we may die with him."

Now when Jesus came, he found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb four days. Bethany was near Jerusalem, about two miles off, and many of the Jews had come to Martha and Mary to console them concerning their brother. So when Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went and met him, but Mary remained seated in the house. Martha said to Jesus, "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. But even now I know that whatever you ask from God, God will give you." Jesus said to her, "Your brother will rise again." Martha said to him, "I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day." Jesus said to her, "I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?" She said to him, "Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world."

When she had said this, she went and called her sister Mary, saying in private, "The Teacher is here and is calling for you." And when she heard it, she rose quickly and went to him. Now Jesus had not yet come into the village, but was still in the place where Martha had met him. When the Jews who were with her in the house, consoling her, saw Mary rise quickly and go out, they followed her, supposing that she was going to the tomb to weep there. Now when Mary came to where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet, saying to him, "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in his spirit and greatly troubled. And he said, "Where have you laid him?" They said to him, "Lord, come and see." Jesus wept. So the Jews said, "See how he loved him!" But some of them said, "Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man also have kept this man from dying?"

Then Jesus, deeply moved again, came to the tomb. It was a cave, and a stone lay against it. Jesus said, "Take away the stone." Martha, the sister of the dead man, said to him, "Lord, by this time there will be an odor, for he has been dead four days." Jesus said to her, "Did I not tell you that if you believed you would see the glory of God?" So they took away the stone. And Jesus lifted up his eyes and said, "Father, I thank you that you have heard me. I knew that you always hear me, but I said this on account of the people standing around, that they may believe that you sent me." When he had said these things, he cried out with a loud voice, "Lazarus, come out." The man who had died came out, his hands and feet bound with linen strips, and his face wrapped with a cloth. Jesus said to them, "Unbind him, and let him go."

{Rev. Dwight Yoo}

A passage from "Too Good to be True" by Michael Horton...

"At the age of seventy-eight, James Horton had been diagnosed with a benign brain tumor that required immediate surgery. At first, a shunt released some of the fluid on his brain, but a further surgery was necessary to excise the rapidly growing lump before it interrupted vital brain functions. This surgery failed, and before long we realized that my father would not recover.

He lived for nearly a year, however, almost paralyzed from head to toe. Since even his face had lost muscular control, his eyelids drooped, exposing their red interior. It was as if his whole face had melted like wax, and we could hardly recognize him-except for the eyes, which were always filled with emotion, usually unspeakable pain. But occasionally, and more frequently toward the end, they evidenced hope and a confidence that came from another place.

We prayed for weeks that the Lord would take him home. We would place our son, just a few months old, in his namesake's listless arms and watch my dad's heaving chest signal his delight. Even then, it was always a bittersweet visit for my father, and for us.

The Gibraltar of the family, my mother, fussed over his bedside, nervously fluffing his pillows at fifteen-minute intervals, ensuring that the intravenous fluids were properly calculated, and organizing edifying visits from friends and children from church. In between, she read quietly in her chair while holding Dad's hand. For years, I had witnessed the remarkable care that these two people provided in our home, first to their own parents and then to fifteen elderly folks in our residential care home as I was growing up. But now she was caring for her best friend, and there was almost nothing she could do for him but fluff his pillows-and try to hide her own daily grief. Although my mom always looked ten years younger than her actual age, these months acted like time-lapse photography, working my father's pain into her own face and wearing her body down.

Then, just two months before my father's death, Mom suffered a massive stroke while I was driving her from her sister's funeral, where she had delivered a moving eulogy. This strong and compassionate woman who had given her life to disadvantaged city kids and abandoned seniors was now herself dependent on others.

I recalled a couple of times in the past when my parents had mentioned their worst fears about old age. For my dad, a debilitating disease would be the most horrible way of death, he said; for my mom, it was being a burden-and from their caregiving experience they knew both well. In my darker moments, I wondered why God would allow them to experience their worst scenarios in the last act of their play, especially when they had done so much for so many others. They had moved close to Lisa and me in our first year of marriage to be of help when they learned of our first pregnancy. Always running to the side of those who needed a strong arm, my mom was now partially paralyzed and disabled, while my dad was succumbing to an agonizing death.

I told God that it all seemed too calculated, that he seemed all too real, too involved, too present in our lives, especially my parents', as if he had cruelly dished out the very end that each most feared. Shouldn't people whose lives were all about giving to others, especially to the elderly, have a break when it comes to how they leave this life? It seemed to challenge the whole "reap what you sow" principle: does this apply only when people deserve bad and not when they deserve good?

My wife, recovering from several especially difficult miscarriages, found that her visits to my dad's bedside only aggravated her questions about God's goodness. It was strange to see her go through this. After all, Lisa was a Bible study teacher who devoured pretty deep theology books. Now it was all being put to the test of real life.

I had experienced death up close in our home growing up, not only with my grandparents but also with the adopted "grandparents" in our home for the elderly. Still, Lisa and I both struggled with the usual doubts. People suffer and even die from natural causes every day, we tried to tell ourselves. Furthermore, old people eventually die. We all die. This doesn't mitigate the tragedy, but its inevitability and universality at least prepare us for the fact.

But why do some people suffer so much in their death? Why is it often so slow and painful? Is death itself not horrible enough that we also have to fear dying-a wasting and withering that threatens our cherished expectations of a good and orderly providence? Just to look at my father over the course of those ghastly months, those long and torturous weeks, was to face the most serious, existential, concrete challenges to our deeply held Christian convictions."

Hope is found in Revelation, NOT Human Reason

Mary, Martha, and Lazarus loved Jesus and Jesus loved them. It is plainly spoken in the passage. When Jesus hears that Lazarus is deathly ill, Jesus stays two days where He is. He does not go to them. By the time Jesus shows up, Lazarus has been dead four days. What can those who know Him think? The one who can heal blindness and can work miracles... where is He? And how can He be good when He is silent in the darkest hour of need. Put yourself into Mary & Martha's shoes. Our prayers appear to fall on deaf ears.

What can human reason lead to?

1) We look at death and we think... there is no God. How can God let this be? That means He does not exist. There is only us and the natural way of things. Everything dies.

2) We think there's a God and we think God is powerless against death and destruction.

3) Or we think there's a God who is powerful, but He doesn't care. He isn't loving. God chose to let things happen to us. He cannot be good!

In the passage, Mary & Martha are not quite that far. But look at what they said. Martha said, "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." But it is a weak faith... because when Jesus asked them to open the tomb later, Martha said, "Lord, by this time there will be an odor, for he has been dead four days."

There's a very puzzling verse in the passage: "Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So, when he heard that Lazarus was ill, he stayed two days longer in the place where he was." Jesus loved them, therefore He stayed where He was. He stayed where He was BECAUSE He loved them. This is not human logic. Anyone who hears that a dear family member is deathly ill would run to them, right away. But someone who reads the story would also realize that Jesus was four days away. Lazarus would still have been dead by the time Jesus arrived. But there was a tradition that said people who died might be resuscitated within four days. Jesus added some days to his trip back to this family so that Lazarus would be dead for four days by the time He came back. Beyond resuscitation. And THEN Jesus would raise him. And those who saw it would be dumbstruck. Someone who is totally dead, beyond the hope of any strange circumstances in those days. Jesus raised a person who was by any expectation dead and rotting.

For Mary & Martha, it is clear why Jesus waited instead of hurrying to their side. They had the privilege of knowing. But sometimes, we will not understand what happened. There will not be an explanation of horrible things. Mike Horton says in his book, "God has revealed everything we need to know but not everything we might like to know" Jesus died on the cross for us. It is God's love displayed for us to see.

Hope is knowing Jesus will remove the 'crushing-ness' of life

One of the things about life is that it doesn't turn out how we hope and expect. It's painfully obvious that things don't happen the way we think it should turn out. The man who cuts corners and is dishonest... makes money. But the Christian man can barely make ends meet. Sometimes we suffer because we follow Christ. People will hate us because we follow Him. Other times, we will suffer because of our own stupid decisions. But there's a third kind... the world is broken and we share in that. This world is not as it should be. Christians are not shielded from the brokenness of this world. But we live in the hope that life will not always be that way. We do not mean hope as in wishful thinking. For the christian, hope means we know for sure that it will happen. Jesus was troubled... He was angry. Jesus wept... He was saddened. Jesus already knows Lazarus will be raised. Why? Most commentators think that Jesus is angry and saddened by the brokenness of creation. The original goodness of creation is scarred and twisted. When Jesus raised Lazarus, it was a miracle. And when miracles show up in the bible, it is not for us to focus on the miracle, but rather the miracle is to teach us something. Lazarus' resurrection is telling us that Jesus wants to bring restoration to everything.

Hope is experienced by keeping Jesus central

When Jesus describes the sickness, death, and resurrection of Lazarus: "This illness does not lead to death. It is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it." When glory is used here, it isn't glory given to God. Rather it is that God's glory will be revealed. When Lazarus came back, it was not just for the family and those close to the family... It was to show that Jesus IS the resurrection. People back then believed in resurrection. Everyone was talking about raising people from the dead. But Jesus did this miracle to show that HE is life. No matter what happens, Jesus is our life. In the darkest and most painful times of our lives, we still have hope in Him.

Apr 10, 2011

The Gospel: Hope for the Jaded

[1 Corinthians 1:4-9]

I give thanks to my God always for you because of the grace of God that was given you in Christ Jesus, 5that in every way you were enriched in him in all speech and all knowledge— 6even as the testimony about Christ was confirmed among you— 7so that you are not lacking in any spiritual gift, as you wait for the revealing of our Lord Jesus Christ, 8 who will sustain you to the end, guiltless in the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 God is faithful, by whom you were called into the fellowship of his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

{Rev. Dwight Yoo}

Idealism

Many people live by idealism. They assume that things will work out and everything will be ok in the end. There is even a Christian version of this. Many western Christians have this. It is characterized by trite theology. They dismiss struggle, suffering, and pain.

Cynicism

Others live in "reality." They have been through tough times and seen how things don't work out. They have hearts full of bitterness. They don't believe in happy endings. They are critical of culture, politics, and of anything good.

The Gospel offers us a different way: Hopeful realism

On one hand, the gospel is real about suffering, sin, darkness, and evil. But on the other hand, we can still hope things can and will change. Because we have a promise... based on the stone rolled away from the tomb.

To the Jaded: Perhaps at some time, we loved the church. Then something changed. A church... maybe our church disappointed us. This church hurt us. So we've disengaged. We are here, but it's because our friends are here. We find the church hurtful... and maybe even worthless.

The Gospel does not underestimate the sinfulness of Christians... and neither should we.

Note the greeting Paul gives to the church in Corinth. We usually breeze over it, but we need to re-examine what is going on. This church was planted by Paul. But since then the church had broken into factions, there was sexual immorality of a sort that even pagans did not engage in, the church was being led astray from the gospel, they were desecrating the communion and they even were opposing Paul, the one who originally started that church.

The church is not made of the most moral and upstanding people. Paul calls us foolish and weak. But he also says we are used to make fools of the wise & strong. This is who the church is made of. Consider King David, who walked so closely with God... then turned around to murder and steal someone's wife. If we understand the Gospel, we should not be surprised by the sin still in our hearts. That someone in our small group is sleeping around. But even after seeing all this, Paul greets them: "I give thanks to my God always for you because of the grace of God that was given you in Christ Jesus" Even in this ugly mess, Paul was thankful. Why? Because even through all these things were going wrong and messy, Paul was glad because God was working in them through His grace. Paul trusted that God was at work.

This is the view we should have of those who are in the church. We know of God's promise to make us glorious and holy. Because of this, we can hope that we can and will change.

The church is like a marriage. Paul loved the church at Corinth with their faults and failings. He loved them in their sin and their faults. He loved them for who they were. Like in marriage, we are called to love our spouses. We do not say: "you will have to change before I love you." This is the heart of marriage and the heart of Christ. Jesus loved us while we were still sinners and his enemies. That is love. This is what we are called to do for the church. We cannot love Jesus and hate the church. That would be like loving me (Dwight) and hating Paula (my wife). There's something wrong with that. We are supposed to see the faults, the failing of the church... and we are still to love them in that. We are not supposed to wait for change and hold the church at arm's length waiting for change.

"“The serious Christian, set down for the first time in a Christian community, is likely to bring with him a very definite idea of what Christian life together should be and to try to realize it. But God’s grace speedily shatters such dreams. Just as surely as God desires to lead us to a knowledge of genuine Christian fellowship, so surely must we be overwhelmed by a great disillusionment with others, with Christians in general, and, if we are fortunate, with ourselves. By sheer grace, God will not permit us to live even for a brief period in a dream world. He does not abandon us to those rapturous experiences and lofty moods that come over us like a dream. God is not a God of the emotions but the God of truth.

Only that fellowship which faces such disillusionment, with all its unhappy and ugly aspects, begins to be what it should in God’s sight, begins to grasp in faith the promise that is given to it. The sooner this shock of disillusionment comes to an individual and to a community the better for both. A community which cannot bear and cannot survive such a crisis, which insists upon keeping its illusion when it should be shattered, permanently loses in that moment the promise of Christian community. Sooner or later it will collapse. Every human wish dream that is injected into the Christian community is a hindrance to genuine community and must be banished if genuine community is to survive. He who loves his dream of community more than the Christian community itself becomes a destroyer of the latter, even though his personal intentions may be ever so honest and earnest and sacrificial." (Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer)

Keep this in mind, when you meet the church. There are three stages of marriage.
1) Honeymoon: I love it. (We think they're the bomb.)
2) Disenchantment: I've been duped! (Reality hits: people become jaded & cynical.)
3) Maturity: I see you clearly and I will love you. (It's real and I still love you.)

Apr 3, 2011

The Peacemaking Church: Overcoming Evil with Good

[Romans 12:14-21]

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord." To the contrary, "if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

{Rev. Dwight Yoo}

The Peacemaker's Pledge
(Our approach to conflict should be different from the world.)

Glorify God

Our perspective / posture should be one of "how can I glorify God in this situation?" God brings us into all sorts of situations, even conflict. He can work out good through it all.

Get the Log Out of Your Own Eye

We all have blindspots and things we are deceived about. We are all more sinful than we think we are. There are things in our lives that have changed from good things to demands. We should have a healthy suspicious of our own hearts. We are sinners

Gently Restore

How can I help the other person grow? They are not an obstacle. They are a fellow sinner, brother/sister... and how can I help them through this conflict?

Go and Be Reconciled

How can I engage and rebuild the relationship? How can I bring peaceful resolution to this conflict? Not just win or mow down the other person, but bring about real peace.

A note of caution:

What do you do if the person will not be reconciled? What if that person keeps attacking? What if we've done all the above things, but still they hang onto their bitterness and anger. Consider our passage of the day.

"Bless those who persecute you."
"Do not avenge yourselves"

Summary

We are called to show deliberate, focused love to people, even when they hurt and cause us trouble.

This response is unnatural and therefore, supernatural.

We need the Spirit of God to convince us to love our enemies. We cannot truly love those who hate us without a work of God in us.

"But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil. Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful." - Luke 6:35-36 (ESV)

This response is grounded in humble submission to God's justice.

God will judge and account for all things. He will punish. It is not our job to punish and take vengence. To do so, is to take God's job.

"For rulers are not a terror to good conduct, but to bad. Would you have no fear of the one who is in authority? Then do what is good, and you will receive his approval, for he is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword in vain. For he is the servant of God, an avenger who carries out God’s wrath on the wrongdoer." - Romans 13:3-4

This response overcomes evil.

When we react like the way the world does, evil has won over us. When we respond as the world does, Satan wins. But if we react as Christ does, then we are overcoming our aggressor. "heap burning coals on his head" is not to be seen as a vindictive action. Rather it is seen as a way to repel an attacker... a way to stop attacks. But by kindness, rather than violence.

"Love is the only force in the world that can change an enemy into a friend" - Martin Luther King Jr.

Mar 20, 2011

The Peacemaking Church: Speaking the Truth in Love

[James 3:1-12]

Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things.

How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and sea creature, can be tamed and has been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring pour forth from the same opening both fresh and salt water? Can a fig tree, my brothers, bear olives, or a grapevine produce figs? Neither can a salt pond yield fresh water.

{Rev. Dwight Yoo}

For the peace-making series we've been covering, Ken Sande largely covers practical ways to make peace. But today we are going to cover a very broad topic: the tongue and how it impacts our life.

Words are Powerful

Verse 3-5 reads: "If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things."

This generation might not consider words in this light because of things like twitter and blogger. Words are a dime a dozen. But consider all the upheaval around the world, all the revolutions and regime changes. These came from ideas, from words... They can inspire, give hope. They can also incredible negative and destructive effects. "Death and life are in the power of the tongue" - Proverbs 18:21

Controlling your tongue is difficult

Professional athletes train, eat properly, sleep properly... they live very, very disciplined lives to perform at that level. But how hard it is for them to control their tongue? Consider how these same athletes say such ridiculous things.

How do we change?

Verses 10-12: "With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. Does a spring pour forth from the same opening both fresh and salt water? Can a fig tree, my brothers, bear olives, or a grapevine produce figs? Neither can a salt pond yield fresh water."

James refers to this duality in the Christian life. We have people who profess to be followers of Christ, yet have such hatred of others. How can someone who knows love still be so hateful?

"Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or make the tree bad and its fruit bad, for the tree is known by its fruit. You brood of vipers! How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil. I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned." - Matthew 12:33-37

There are two different kinds of trees (people) and they treasure different things. If we would treasure Christ & God, then this will be reflected in our fruit and in our speech. If we would treasure other things (idols), then this too will be reflected. Those who trust and love God, then your speech will be loving and gracious. If your speech is hateful, bitter, spiteful, & hurtful, then we are trusting in something else. Our words reveal our heart. So the way to change our words is to change our heart. Humanly this is impossible. So what we must do is this, submit our hearts to God.

The purpose of our words

We are made in the image of God. He is a God who speaks. In Genesis 1, God spoke... and everything was created. Not only that, but He creates things for love. But in Genesis 3, another voice speaks. It is our primary enemy, Satan. He twists God's word and misleads man. Man is twisted and so is his words. Neither he nor his words reflect God. But there is hope... The WORD became flesh. Jesus came. And He came to redeem and restore. Jesus will restore everything, including our speech. God is drawing people back to Himself. That is the role of our speech.

"All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." - 2 Corinthians 5:18-21

We are here to give the message of Christ. That is what our words are for. For those who do not know Christ, our words are to represent Christ and to draw them to God. For those who do know Christ, our words are to draw them closer to God.

"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God." - Colossians 3:16

"Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love." - Ephesians 4:15-16

The entire church has been given the ministry of the Word. It is not only for the pastoral staff and biblical counselors. We should be building and encouraging each other in Christ. How much of our speech really draws people to Christ?

David Powlison - Speaking the Truth in Love: 4 out of 22 scenes where Jesus is speaking contains sermons. The other 18 scenes show Him speaking, dialoging, eating with others.

Mar 13, 2011

The Peacemaking Church: How To Approach Those Who Have Wronged You

[Matthew 18:15-20]

"If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them."

{Rev. Dwight Yoo}

Let us first bow our heads and pray for those who are brokenhearted in Japan.

While these principles can be widely applied to all our relationships, this is specifically for those who have sinned against us in church. It is for brothers and sisters within the body. There is an assumption that the people here are committed to a church body. They know other members and the leadership. It is an assumption of membership. If you have been here for awhile, please consider becoming a member of the church.

Verse 15

If your brother sins against you, go! While some sins can and should be overlooked in love, there are some that we should bring up and confront.

You need to GO and tell them, if their actions...
- Dishonor God.
- Damage your relationship.
- Hurt others.
- Hurts themselves.

What excuses stand in our way?
- We claim that we should be forgiving all the time.
- We think we are being judgmental.
- We think only the Holy Spirit should be doing this.
- We don't want to confront others.

Between you and them alone.
While it is wise to seek counsel, we should not be talking to everyone but the person who offended you. Usually the heart behind it is one of trying to get them on YOUR side. "Oh, that person is so wicked." "So jacked up" But if we are not seeking counsel, we are gossiping and slandering. God is not pleased. Satan, however, is very pleased.

Go with the right attitude.
- Go as a fellow sinner, as a servant... to build up and restore (Galatians 6:1)
+ Watch out for pride & judgment of others.
+ Be mindful that we may struggle differently, but we all struggle.

Verse 16
- Take one or two others along

Verse 17
- Take one of two others along again.

These one or two others are there to reconcile. They are there to be a force for peacemaking. Note that there is nothing here in regards to agreement between both parties on when to call in a third party from the body. This third party is not here to be on ANYONE's side. They are there to bring peace. If this does not work, this matter should be brought to the church leadership. The third party will then play a role as a witness to the leadership. If this does not bring about peace and reconciliation, then they will be treated as unbelievers. What does that mean? It means that you still love them, you still pursue them, but you ask them whether they truly know Christ and the gospel. They are not to be condemned, but the nature of the relationship changes. Their actions do not reflect one who has the Spirit living within them. There is a lack of grace, a lack of love, & no desire for true peace.

"Nothing is so cruel as the tenderness that consigns another to his sin. Nothing can be more compassionate than the severe rebuke that calls a brother back from the path of sin." - Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Keep in mind that we sometimes need to wound people to save them. When doctors are dealing with those who have cancer, it is not cruel to cut them open to remove the tumor(s). It may be strange to see someone cutting someone open (from afar, not knowing the situation). But it is the most loving thing to do.

Mar 6, 2011

The Peacemaking Church: Confession Brings Freedom

{Various Passages}

[Rev. Dwight Yoo]

The last sermon in this series is very important for understanding this message and even for your own spiritual and personal life. I highly recommend that you listen to it. (Conflict starts in the heart (mp3))

We are broken people, with broken relationships. Nine inch nails describes this in a song called Hurt(YouTube).

It is into a world of brokenness that Jesus came into. He is the one who stepped into all this brokenness and gives us hope for healing. Not only this, but He also calls us to be His ambassadors to the world. To point people to this hope we have in Christ. So Christians should have a suspicion of our intentions and our heart. We should jump to admit where we have gone wrong and our conflicts with others.

Confession before God


All offenses against others are ultimately a sin against God.

"For I know my transgressions,
and my sin is ever before me.
Against you, you only, have I sinned
and done what is evil in your sight,
so that you may be justified in your words
and blameless in your judgment." - Psalm 51:3-4

"He is not greater in this house than I am, nor has he kept back anything from me except yourself, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?" - Genesis 39:9

"Yet this is what Jesus did. He told people that their sins were forgiven, and never waited to consult all the other people whom their sins had undoubtedly injured. He unhesitatingly behaved as if He was the party chiefly concerned, the person chiefly offended in all offences. This makes sense only if He really was the God whose laws are broken and whose love is wounded in every sin." - C.S. Lewis "Mere Christianity"

Why are sins against others, sins against God?

- God is their Maker = Proverbs 13:21
- Christ is the Head of His Body = Ephesians 1, 4, and Colossians 1
- God commands us to love others = Matthew 22:37-40
- God commands us to love Him first = Exodus 20:3

For those of us who think that since we are in not in conflict with others and everything seems peaceful, we don't think this applies to us. We'll take some notes and remind others to resolve their conflicts. I warn you that you still may have sins of omission. Sins where you are falling short of things God commands. You are selfish and not loving others. You are not there for others.

What happens when love something over God?
Say what we are living for is success. What happens when someone gets in your way at work? You will punish them. You will back stab, start rumors, and do anything to keep your career on track. Or you'll neglect your family.

So how should we confess?

Confess before God
- With Assurance = 1 John 1:9; Psalm 32:5; Psalm 51:12
- With Hope = Colossians 3

Confession before Others

The 7 A's of Confession

Address Everyone Involved

Heart sins do not need to be confessed to others. These are thoughts and mindset sins that never became action. They should be confessed to God. But you do not need to confess to people.
Social sins need to be confessed to others. These are sins that became action. Each person who has been sinned against should be confessed to.

Avoid If, But and Maybe

These are the quickest way to ruin an apology. They express this feeling of callousness and uncaring. The word "but" eliminates everything you said before it.

Admit specifically

This expresses exactly what you want to change and how you've wronged this person.

Acknowledge the Hurt

Don't just apologize for your action. Acknowledge the feelings and pain.

Accept the Consequences

Let them know that you accept the results of what you have done. This is the perspective of a genuine and repentant heart.

Alter your Behavior

Explain to them how you will change your behavior. How will you change your behavior?

Ask for Forgiveness (and allow time)

Sometimes we get forgiveness by the end of the apology. But there are times where they are not ready to forgive yet. The best thing to do is to give them time and be patient with them.