Making decisions with wisdom

Proverbs 16:1-4, 9, 25, 33 ESV

The plans of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord .  
All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the spirit.  
Commit your work to the Lord , and your plans will be established.  
The Lord has made everything for its purpose, even the wicked for the day of trouble.  

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. 

There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.  

The lot is cast into the lap, but its every decision is from the Lord .

Proverbs 19:21 ESV

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.

Proverbs 21:5 ESV

The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance, but everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty.

Proverbs 27:1 ESV

Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.

Romans 12:1-2 ESV

I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Rev. Dan Whang

We often goes through times of darkness and light, but see no meaning to it. God knows but we may not know in the midst of trouble. How then can we act decide wisely?

Two extremes in decision making

Under-spiritualized frantic planner

They tend to plan and worry, but there isn't much prayer. They want to take control of their lives, but the word says this is not within our control. God is in control. We cannot predict tomorrow.

Over-spiritualized passive waiting

We pray but don't act. We wait for some sign from God. Fleeces, clouds in the sky, etc.

God's will should be seen this way:

Sovereign Will - creation
Moral Will - God's will for hour we should live our lives
Will of Direction - God's will for our lives

Views on God's will

Traditional: pray, read scripture, and observe our circumstances. God will give us peace about the right choice.

Traditional Charismatic: in addition to scripture, God can directly speak to us and guide us.

Wisdom: God's purpose is secret. Read scripture, observe our circumstances, and surrender our lives to him. Focus on acting as God desires rather than expecting to know His will.

Christ is our wisdom

We are natural fools. But Christ is our wisdom. He brings us to repentance and to new life.

Application

Commit completely to following Christ
Fully place our lives into his hands. Seek his kingdom rather than our own desires.

Store up God's commands. (Consistently and diligently.)

Turn your ear to wisdom (find good counsel and be teachable)

Call out for insight. (Pray for God's help)

Wisdom is there to grow our faith and help us become closer to God.

Working wisely

Proverbs 6:6-11 ESV

Go to the ant, O sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise.   Without having any chief, officer, or ruler,  she prepares her bread in summer and gathers her food in harvest.   How long will you lie there, O sluggard? When will you arise from your sleep?   A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest,   and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man.

Rev.  Dwight Yoo

Work Diligently

The sluggard lacks initiative. Proverbs describes not only their actions,  but also their life.  They don't move very far.  They take the easy way all the time.  From year to year, they make no progress. They choose comfort and ease every time. It does not apply to things we do not finish.  It is that they consistently do not finish. Additionally, they spend energy on worthless pursuits. Instead of work on things that ultimately matter, we spend it on ill-timed tasks and leisure. They make excuses to avoid work. We rationalize our own laziness. Sluggards are not just lazy. They are proud and self-centered people. They care about their own comfort and self-interest above all else.

Sluggards cause suffering to others.  They bring trouble to those around them. They suffer lack. They can cause harm to coworkers, family, and friends. The one seeking self satisfaction and comfort ends up causing themselves suffering.

The path of the sluggard isn't determined in one choice, but rather one choice after another. Choosing self comfort over the wise choice hour after hour, day after day. We will be surprised by a shock to find that we are the sluggard.

Work as one who has been called

Our lives should be lived as one bought by Christ. Work is not a curse. It existed before sin entered the picture. It is a good thing. It is not a curse. God calls us to work well.  All work is sacred, not just the work of pastors, missionaries, and church positions. All well done work is pleasing to God.

Work in light of Christ's work

Christ's work brings: HOPE, PROTECTION, & ASSURANCE

Our work comes with a measure of futility. But in Christ, our labor for the kingdom is not in vain.  We are not to be a sluggard. But we are not called to become workaholics, work is not our God. Christ died and provided for us. We don't need to prove ourselves through our work. We are to neither make too little or too much of work. Die to yourself to bear fruit for God.

Wisdom's view of Beauty

Proverbs 5:18-19 ESV

Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth,  a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

Proverbs 11:22 ESV

Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.

Proverbs 31:30 ESV

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Wisdom recognizes true beauty

Good created things to be beautiful. He not only creates for form and function, but also aesthetically. Appreciation for beauty is found in the word of God. Proverbs and song of Solomon has some examples.

Wisdom recognizes the dangers of beauty

Charm is deceitful. This means that physical beauty can deceive us into making foolish decisions and judgment. Physical beauty can captivate us into adultery or other sins. Don't overlook serious character flaws because of how attractive someone looks.

Physical beauty is vanity. It means that beauty is fleeting. We are getting older and getting less physically attractive over time.

Not only that, but the worldly trends of beauty change. From culture to culture, decade to decade, even year to year... The definition of beauty changes.

We believe that being beautiful and attractive will bring us success and fulfillment. That if we looked better, we would be happier. But we cannot achieve our goal of being beautiful enough. The goalposts are always moving and changing.

Wisdom seeks she finds true beauty

Outside beauty is deceiving and fleeting. But inner beauty, character, is true beauty. This is what should be sought out and pursued.

1 Peter 3:3-4 ESV

Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

We are not saying that beauty is bad. We should appreciate it. But that which matters more is inner beauty, character and godliness. Grow your inner beauty. This is where our emphasis should be. It will not fade, but grow over time.

Jesus is the personification of this beauty. He did not come as a handsome man, but an average looking Joe. His worth was in His character.

Isaiah 53:2 ESV

For he grew up before him like a young plant, and like a root out of dry ground; he had no form or majesty that we should look at him, and no beauty that we should desire him.

The wisdom of self control

Proverbs 25:28 ESV

A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.

Titus 2:11-12 ESV

For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age,

Rev. Dwight Yoo

A life without self control is like a city without walls.

Centrality of self-control

A city with no walls is defenseless. It was open to attack by wild animals, bandits, and other problems. Lack of self control leads to all sorts of problems. The inability to hold back impulses can destroy your life. Holding a job requires self control. We don't always feel like doing work. But if we only worked when we felt like it, work would never get done well or in a timely manner. But this is not only for our jobs, but our relationships, our prayer life, our families, and other parts of our lives.

Challenge of self-control

Self control is not only vital, but incredibly difficult. We should look up to those whose lives are marked by self control.

Today's culture says that restraints and boundaries are bad. Self control is seen as repression. Society says that we should do as we feel.

Our desires are wrong. We want the wrong things. Or we want good things too much. Overeating, laziness, and others like it are excesses of those good things we want. We look to fill our spiritual desires with other things. We try to fill our spiritual thirst with other things, but we are unsatisfied. We keep clamoring for more. We end up in prisons of our own making. Unrestrained desires will ruin our lives.

Cultivating self-control

Actively managing our lives and desires leads to bountiful results. But we cannot reach self control by sheer effort. How so? Consider this, if an overweight man decides to lose weight. They pursue losing weight and finally become fit. At the end they may end up fearful of regaining weight. They are enslaved to working out, eating right, and healthy habits. They may gain workout partners, but they may lose old friends. They can't enjoy food anymore.

So how then do we cultivate it?

Cry out to God for self-control.

Set boundaries in our life with community support and accountability.

Find contentment at the feet of Christ

Pride goes before destruction

Proverbs 11:2 ESV

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.

Proverbs 15:25, 33 ESV

The Lord tears down the house of the proud but maintains the widow’s boundaries.   The fear of the Lord is instruction in wisdom, and humility comes before honor.

Proverbs 18:12 ESV

Before destruction a man’s heart is haughty, but humility comes before honor.

Proverbs 23:17-18 ESV

Let not your heart envy sinners, but continue in the fear of the Lord all the day.  Surely there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off.

Proverbs 27:1-2 ESV

Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.  Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your own lips.

Rev. Dan Whang

We live in a world that gets us to showcase and glorify ourselves. This world encourages pride. A working definition of pride is elevating ourselves above others, even above God.

Expressions of pride

Competitive Spirit (unhealthy kind)

People don't generally see themselves as proud. But often people want to be richer, smarter, etc. We measure ourselves against others. So what is so wrong about this competitive spirit? We treat people different based on whether they are smarter, richer, etc.

Boasting

We feel slighted when we don't get proper credit. We want to talk about our accomplishments.

Insecure self-absorption

When people try to give you advice or feedback, we take it personally. It is about our self worth. We can't stand it when other people are having fun and making so much noise. We hate all these posts on Facebook because they are doing so well.

Spiritual pride

Some of us do spiritual things for the approval of others. We act humble for public eyes.

Envy

We resent others because we want what they have. We sulk when they succeed and rejoice when others fall. If we admit envy, it means we are small and petty.

If you think you don't suffer from this, consider those you are critical towards. Why are you always looking for fault in them? This is likely envy... A symptom of pride in your heart.

Dangers of pride

Pride leads to destruction

Destruction doesn't sometimes follow pride. It always follows pride. From the titanic to the tower of Babel, God always destroys the proud. It is almost like a promise.

The proud can never learn

The proud become hardened in their ways. They stop learning because they are always in the right. Even their opinions are right! Eventually, they will not seek the wisdom from God.

God stands opposed to the proud

He will tear down the house of the proud. He calls them to repent and draw close to God. The proud set themselves in enmity towards God.

How to cultivate humility

Remember Jesus is the humble king and keep your gaze on Him

Jesus was never competitive or proud. Instead He came to serve and die for his enemies. This is how we grow humility. We focus on Jesus and become stunned by the grace of God. The vision of Jesus on the cross dying for our sins will humble us.

Remember that Jesus draws near to the humble and honors them

Humility is not hating yourself. It is not low self esteem. It is to stop focusing on ourselves. We are to lose sight of ourselves in the glory of God.

Application

Make your greatest boast in the Lord Jesus Christ and his crucifixion.

Growing in wisdom

Proverbs 4:10-27 ESV

Hear, my son, and accept my words, that the years of your life may be many.  I have taught you the way of wisdom; I have led you in the paths of uprightness.  When you walk, your step will not be hampered, and if you run, you will not stumble.   Keep hold of instruction; do not let go; guard her, for she is your life.   Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of the evil.  Avoid it; do not go on it; turn away from it and pass on.  For they cannot sleep unless they have done wrong; they are robbed of sleep unless they have made someone stumble.  For they eat the bread of wickedness and drink the wine of violence.  But the path of the righteous is like the light of dawn, which shines brighter and brighter until full day.   The way of the wicked is like deep darkness; they do not know over what they stumble.   My son, be attentive to my words; incline your ear to my sayings.   Let them not escape from your sight; keep them within your heart.  For they are life to those who find them, and healing to all their flesh.  Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.  Put away from you crooked speech, and put devious talk far from you.   Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you.   Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure.   Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.

Rev. Dwight Yoo

Wisdom is about handling things well on a day to day basis. This doesn't seem like a big deal for the small day to day decisions. But life has a cumulative effect, a slow gradual change. So how do we go about this? We ask God. Pray. But wisdom isn't something you see growing in your life. So what then? Is the bible wrong? No, wisdom is not a door, it's a path, a journey, a way. It is a rigorous pursuit that requires active pursuit.

Proverbs 1:32 ESV

For the simple are killed by their turning away, and the complacency of fools destroys them;

Five requirements to gain wisdom

1 Actively embed God's word in your mind

Proverbs 4:10, 13 ESV

Hear, my son, and accept my words, that the years of your life may be many...  Keep hold of instruction; do not let go; guard her, for she is your life.

The word of God does not cover the everyday intricacies of life. But it does give broad strokes, it gives us a framework to start. This general set of guides help us to build a more wise way of living.

2 Listen to the word

Proverbs 4:20 ESV

My son, be attentive to my words; incline your ear to my sayings.

We need to recognize that we are not all knowing. We should listen to the word for guidance. One of the ways that we can see our need for wisdom is a Johari window. It shows us that we don't know everything about ourselves... We all have blindspots.

But we must be careful. We must follow those who are chasing wisdom.

3 Look at your life with three types of sight: insight, foresight, and hindsight

We need to focus and concentrate on our lives. Look for deeper understanding in the situations around us.

Consider what is off in the future. Consider the consequences before doing something. What we do today will impact the future.

Look at our past and learn from our mistakes. We all make mistakes, but the wise learn from them.

Proverbs 26:11 ESV

Like a dog that returns to his vomit is a fool who repeats his folly.

4 Feet that follow even when following looks foolish

The path of wisdom can sometimes take us to places that look foolish. Painful and hard times will still come our way. This pain is not punishment; it is for us to learn and grow. It can reveal our hidden sin and issues. God does these things for our good.

5 A heart that is centered

What we desire most will determine what we will chase. It will determine what we use our insight, foresight, and feet for. If this is missing, none of the other four will matter. The wisdom that we learn is not solely for our benefit. It is for the glory of God. That is the driving desire for the Christian to seek out wisdom in our lives.

Get wisdom

Proverbs 3:13-18 ESV

Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding,   for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold.  She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her.   Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor.  Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace.  She is a tree of life to those who lay hold of her; those who hold her fast are called blessed.

Proverbs 4:1-9 ESV

Hear, O sons, a father’s instruction, and be attentive, that you may gain insight,  for I give you good precepts; do not forsake my teaching.  When I was a son with my father, tender, the only one in the sight of my mother,  he taught me and said to me, “Let your heart hold fast my words; keep my commandments, and live.   Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth.  Do not forsake her, and she will keep you; love her, and she will guard you.   The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom, and whatever you get, get insight.  Prize her highly, and she will exalt you; she will honor you if you embrace her.  She will place on your head a graceful garland; she will bestow on you a beautiful crown.”

Rev. Charles Han

The book of Proverbs is a contrast between wisdom and foolishness. Wisdom leads to life, honor, and riches. Foolishness leads to death, shame, and pain.

Wisdom's more precious than any gems, investment, real estate, or worldly wealth. We are to appraise it as of great worth. The Proverbs speak of how to get wisdom... We are to get wisdom.

How do we get it? Firstly, we must understand what wisdom is. It is not just deep thoughts. It is not just smarts. It is knowledge, expertise, and competence applied to everyday life. The law of the prophets is clear on the broad strokes of life, but not the everyday decisions of life. We are clear on loving our neighbor, but not how or when. A well intentioned action that is ill timed can backfire. That is why we need wisdom. A well lived Christian life should look like the woman in Proverbs 31. Her life should show resiliency, mercy, consistency, etc. That is what our lives should reflect. We should be able to handle the A-Z's of life well.

What do we aspire to? Pleasure? Comfort? Wealth? Power? Beauty? Do we seek out wisdom? Do we teach our children to chase after wisdom as the Proverbs exhort us?

Where does seeking wisdom begin? First, acknowledge our foolishness. We are called not to lean on our own understanding, but the Lord. Often this is applied to the far off future. But we need to see this in the day to day. Take a step back from our own wisdom. Seek after God's wisdom. We are to fear God. It is not a servantile fear; it is a child-like reverential respectful fear. In following Jesus, we trade our wisdom for God's foolishness. But God's foolishness is greater than man's wisdom. Consider this. Jesus is a workman who comes into our home. He first does small repairs. But then he starts tearing out parts of the house... It makes no sense. But we expected to have a nice small cottage... Jesus wants to make a palace
Such is our lives in His hands.